If you’re going through any kind of pain—physical, mental, emotional, spiritual—it’s going to eventually end.
We’ve all been there, trudging our way through complicated, lonely, heartbreaking situations, thinking our dark fate is forever. Unchecked, our fear gets loud and obnoxious, telling us we’re doomed beyond imagination.
But this particular fear is a liar.
In hellish times, we need two things:
- Big picture perspective, so we don’t lose faith in the future;
- On-the-ground (quick and easy) momentum that gets us through the hardest moments so we don’t abandon our life.
1. Big Picture Help:
Everything changes—it’s metaphysical law.
When you notice yourself thinking there’s no way out, or feeling life is beyond repair, call out this insane fear (some fears are legit, but not this one). Calling its bluff can soothe our spirit so we don’t lose faith in the future.
Even that marble countertop we’re so proud of, will someday start to erode.
Thankfully, we humans are not made of marble. We’re made of flesh, bone and blood, and our turnaround time during a crisis is much faster than marble.
Even when we think we’re stuck, from a universal perspective, we’re still evolving. We just don’t see the invisible “achievements” occurring underneath our pain.
2. Help for the Daily Grind:
In dark periods, we’ve got to keep moving. Clean something. Go for the smallest walk. Cook a meal. Listen to a podcast. Do a silly little yoga pose—forget big goals for now. Even if you’re bedridden, you can do a breath practice, stretch, or write in a journal.
The idea is to keep energy flowing.
Even the smallest action can move energy.
If you’re an achiever, type-A personality, leader, or go-getter, these low periods will be especially daunting—you’re used to bold, brave steps forward. Understand that the unseen work (happening beneath the surface of your worldly personality) takes precedence now. Build appreciation for the inner transformation because when it’s over, you’ll be more effective and balanced than ever before. Softening is key.
If you’re a teacher, counselor, healer, peace-keeper, or light-worker, the dark night of the soul can make you question everything you know and teach. My dear, you can be so hard on yourself. Every healer has been wounded, and sometimes the more initiations, the more real we become with our students and clients. There’s nothing more annoying than a spiritual guide who has never stood in the fire. Your innocence is being traded for wisdom. You are not a fraud; you’re human like everyone else. Standing tall is key.
Have you gone through impossibly dark times, and what did you learn? I’d love to hear from you, in the comments below. Your words could help someone who feels alone and stuck.
Grateful we’re in this together.